TikTok is going crazy over a voice memo posted to the social media site, purportedly sent from a man ahead of a planned second date with a woman he just met. T.J. questions the validity of the voice memo, but regardless of its validity, it’s sparked an interesting debate online. While having someone disclose their sexual intentions in advance is generally regarded as a good thing, it was presented as an ultimatum rather than a conversation, and that’s been the big issue. Was he manipulative and disrespectful, or was he just replaying a refreshing directness we’re not used to hearing in the dating world.