This episode was inspired by an instagram feed dedicated to helping people have healthier communication, called happy couples connect.   We’ve all felt triggered during heated conversations with our partners, and that’s when we usually make it about the other person:  it’s because of THEIR tone, or THEIR timing.  The truth is most of us are operating out of fear and we either get defensive, use harsh words, or shut down without trying to understand the other person.  We go over the five questions you can ask yourself, before a difficult conversation turns into knock-down, drag-out fight.