Maria Arpa MBE sits down with James Ellis, a coach and coach trainer who specialises in enhancing workplace dynamics across various sectors, including education and private equity. James shares valuable insights on the importance of effective communication and the role of coaching in fostering a positive workplace culture. He emphasises the significance of upfront conversations, or "contracting," to prevent conflicts and improve interactions among team members. The discussion also explores how individuals can shift from a fear-based mindset to one rooted in values, ultimately leading to more constructive relationships. Listeners are encouraged to adopt practical strategies, such as replacing the word "why" with "what" in conversations and distinguishing between facts and perceptions, to enhance their communication skills and navigate workplace challenges more effectively.

Key Takeaways


Quality of Interactions: The quality of our interactions directly influences the quality of our outputs. Engaging in meaningful conversations about how we will communicate can prevent conflicts and misunderstandings in the workplace.


Contracting and Designing Conversations: Establishing upfront agreements about how to handle feedback and interactions can mitigate potential conflicts. This includes discussing how to give and receive feedback constructively.


Curiosity Over Assumptions: Approaching conversations with curiosity rather than judgment can lead to more productive outcomes. Instead of asking "why," which can imply blame, asking "what happened" fosters a more open dialogue.


Understanding Perspectives: Recognizing that each individual may have a different perspective on the same situation is crucial. Engaging in conversations to uncover these perspectives can help avoid assumptions and build better relationships.


Values vs. Fears: Encouraging individuals to operate from their values rather than their fears can enhance their interactions and decision-making processes. This shift in mindset can lead to more positive and constructive workplace dynamics.

Related links

Website: https://mariaarpa.com/

Workplace Consultancy: https://workplacehuddle.com/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@MariaArpaMBE

Host BIO

Maria founded the Centre for Peaceful Solutions in response to the fatal shooting of a 7 year old in her neighbourhood. She developed a model of conflict resolution for violent crime using her brainchild, the Dialogue Road Map (DRM).  

Over 30 years she has mediated everything from threat to life gang disputes to high stakes business deals gone wrong, Maria empowers people to resolve conflict without reliance on experts. So she trains violent prisoners to be facilitators, leaders to be effective communicators, teenagers to be peer mediators and neighbours to be tenant listeners within their respective communities.

The DRM has applications in all aspects of life and is used for resolving conflict, repairing harm, decision making and healing at an individual and group level. It challenges people to live in harmony with their values. In 2020 Maria received an MBE from the Queen for services to mediation.

Maria Arpa MBE sits down with James Ellis, a coach and coach trainer who specialises in enhancing workplace dynamics across various sectors, including education and private equity. James shares valuable insights on the importance of effective communication and the role of coaching in fostering a positive workplace culture. He emphasises the significance of upfront conversations, or "contracting," to prevent conflicts and improve interactions among team members. The discussion also explores how individuals can shift from a fear-based mindset to one rooted in values, ultimately leading to more constructive relationships. Listeners are encouraged to adopt practical strategies, such as replacing the word "why" with "what" in conversations and distinguishing between facts and perceptions, to enhance their communication skills and navigate workplace challenges more effectively.
Key Takeaways
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Quality of Interactions: The quality of our interactions directly influences the quality of our outputs. Engaging in meaningful conversations about how we will communicate can prevent conflicts and misunderstandings in the workplace.
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Contracting and Designing Conversations: Establishing upfront agreements about how to handle feedback and interactions can mitigate potential conflicts. This includes discussing how to give and receive feedback constructively.
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Curiosity Over Assumptions: Approaching conversations with curiosity rather than judgment can lead to more productive outcomes. Instead of asking "why," which can imply blame, asking "what happened" fosters a more open dialogue.
</li>
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Understanding Perspectives: Recognizing that each individual may have a different perspective on the same situation is crucial. Engaging in conversations to uncover these perspectives can help avoid assumptions and build better relationships.
</li>
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Values vs. Fears: Encouraging individuals to operate from their values rather than their fears can enhance their interactions and decision-making processes. This shift in mindset can lead to more positive and constructive workplace dynamics.
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Related links
Website:&nbsp;<a href="https://mariaarpa.com/">https://mariaarpa.com/</a>
Workplace Consultancy: <a href="https://workplacehuddle.com/">https://workplacehuddle.com/</a>
Youtube:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@MariaArpaMBE">https://www.youtube.com/@MariaArpaMBE</a>
Host BIO
Maria founded the Centre for Peaceful Solutions in response to the fatal shooting of a 7 year old in her neighbourhood. She developed a model of conflict resolution for violent crime using her brainchild, the Dialogue Road Map (DRM).&nbsp;&nbsp;
Over 30 years she has mediated everything from threat to life gang disputes to high stakes business deals gone wrong, Maria empowers people to resolve conflict without reliance on experts. So she trains violent prisoners to be facilitators, leaders to be effective communicators, teenagers to be peer mediators and neighbours to be tenant listeners within their respective communities.
The DRM has applications in all aspects of life and is used for resolving conflict, repairing harm, decision making and healing at an individual and group level. It challenges people to live in harmony with their values. In 2020 Maria received an MBE from the Queen for services to mediation.

Who doesn't have conflict in their lives? Whether at work, at home or somewhere out in the world we are all affected by conflict even when it is indirect. The impact of poorly managed conflict can devastate lives. With 30 years’ experience mediating conflict and training peacemakers, Maria has held people’s hearts through everything from workplace hostility, board room battles, belligerent teenagers, separated parents at loggerheads to neighbours at war, street gang rivalries, threats to life and business deals gone wrong. In this podcast Maria lifts the lid on why we fight and how we can resolve conflict and design it out of our lives. Maria’s mission is to reduce unnecessary human suffering through conscious awareness, facilitated dialogue and trauma healing, using her communications tool, the Dialogue Road Map.

Who doesn't have conflict in their lives? Whether at work, at home or somewhere out in the world we are all affected by conflict even when it is indirect. The impact of poorly managed conflict can devastate lives. With 30 years&rsquo; experience mediating conflict and training peacemakers, Maria has held people&rsquo;s hearts through everything from workplace hostility, board room battles, belligerent teenagers, separated parents at loggerheads to neighbours at war, street gang rivalries, threats to life and business deals gone wrong. In this podcast Maria lifts the lid on why we fight and how we can resolve conflict and design it out of our lives. Maria&rsquo;s mission is to reduce unnecessary human suffering through conscious awareness, facilitated dialogue and trauma healing, using her communications tool, the Dialogue Road Map.

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