Like many young couples, Nate and Vanessa Quigley had big dreams and a firm vision for their little family after getting married. They had read the Book of Mormon scripture that promises if you keep the commandments, you will prosper in the land (2 Nephi 4:4). Over a quarter of a century later, they believe the Lord has blessed them in their efforts to raise their children in the gospel of Jesus Christ—those blessings just look a little different than they imagined. On today’s episode, the Quigleys share the challenges they've encountered as parents and why they are convinced their family is perfect for them.

“As a parent, you just jump in the lake and you swim. You can’t possibly help yourself. ...It’s unsafe to be a parent because you love your children so desperately.”

Show Notes 

1:43- Family Narratives
6:48- The Perfect Family?
9:25- Watching a Child Struggle
13:22- The Pandemic of Pandemics
17:47- No More Sweeping Under the Rug
22:57- The Price Paid To Be Someone’s Angel
26:19- Trust God and Do Your Best
31:30- Talking About Mental Challenges
36:09- The Wheel of Wellness and Safe Love
42:30- The Perfect Family Learning Together
45:58- What Does It Mean To Be All In the Gospel of Jesus Christ

Find the full episode transcript at ldsliving.com/allin.

Like many young couples, Nate and Vanessa Quigley had big dreams and a firm vision for their little family after getting married. They had read the Book of Mormon scripture that promises if you keep the commandments, you will prosper in the land (2 Nephi 4:4). Over a quarter of a century later, they believe the Lord has blessed them in their efforts to raise their children in the gospel of Jesus Christ&mdash;those blessings just look a little different than they imagined. On today&rsquo;s episode, the Quigleys share the challenges they've encountered as parents and why they are convinced their family is perfect for them.
&ldquo;As a parent, you just jump in the lake and you swim. You can&rsquo;t possibly help yourself. ...It&rsquo;s unsafe to be a parent because you love your children so desperately.&rdquo;
Show Notes&nbsp;
1:43- Family Narratives 6:48- The Perfect Family? 9:25- Watching a Child Struggle 13:22- The Pandemic of Pandemics 17:47- No More Sweeping Under the Rug 22:57- The Price Paid To Be Someone&rsquo;s Angel 26:19- Trust God and Do Your Best 31:30- Talking About Mental Challenges 36:09- The Wheel of Wellness and Safe Love 42:30- The Perfect Family Learning Together 45:58- What Does It Mean To Be All In the Gospel of Jesus Christ
Find the full episode transcript at <a href="https://www.ldsliving.com/pages/allin">ldsliving.com/allin</a>.

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Nate and Vanessa Quigley: Finding Enduring Joy in Parenting

While sitting in a class at the theological seminary he attended, Michael Huston was floored when he heard his teacher say these words: “Lament is faithfully complaining to God.” The teacher went on to say, “Lament is the way you worship to God from within pain.” Huston describes the feeling he felt that day as exhaling a breath he had been holding for a very long time. On this week’s episode, he explains why he hopes to help others find that same relief in the concept of lament.

1:51- What is Lament and Why the Interest?
9:26- Structure of Lament
12:47- Murmuring or Complaining Vs. Lament
15:17- The Necessity of Expressing Pain and Grief
18:25- Men Are That They Might Have Joy
22:12- Post 9/11—A Modern Example of Lament
27:29- The Importance of Allowing Yourself to Lament
31:05- Lament—A Sacred Offering
37:08- A Note on Lament and “Faith Crisis”
39:52- A God For All Seasons
42:06- What Does It Mean To Be All In the Gospel of Jesus Christ?

“Lament, in a sense, is the most sacred of offerings. …It’s those moments when we are most vulnerable, most exposed, most uncertain, when our legs are the shakiest. We’re taking that and we’re saying, ‘God this is all I have left.’” —Michael Huston



Links & References:

Michael’s book

Elder Maxwell’s talk about murmuring

While sitting in a class at the theological seminary he attended, Michael Huston was floored when he heard his teacher say these words: “Lament is faithfully complaining to God.” The teacher went on to say, “Lament is the way you worship to God from within pain.” Huston describes the feeling he felt that day as exhaling a breath he had been holding for a very long time. On this week’s episode, he explains why he hopes to help others find that same relief in the concept of lament.
1:51- What is Lament and Why the Interest? 9:26- Structure of Lament 12:47- Murmuring or Complaining Vs. Lament 15:17- The Necessity of Expressing Pain and Grief 18:25- Men Are That They Might Have Joy 22:12- Post 9/11—A Modern Example of Lament 27:29- The Importance of Allowing Yourself to Lament 31:05- Lament—A Sacred Offering 37:08- A Note on Lament and “Faith Crisis” 39:52- A God For All Seasons 42:06- What Does It Mean To Be All In the Gospel of Jesus Christ?
“Lament, in a sense, is the most sacred of offerings. …It’s those moments when we are most vulnerable, most exposed, most uncertain, when our legs are the shakiest. We’re taking that and we’re saying, ‘God this is all I have left.’” —Michael Huston
 
Links &amp; References:
<a href="https://www.deseretbook.com/product/P6024765.html">Michael’s book</a>
<a href="https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/1989/10/murmur-not?lang=eng">Elder Maxwell’s talk about murmuring</a>

Michael Huston: Lament—A Faithful Complaint to God

Identity, creating understanding, covenants, a worldwide Church, faith crises, change in the Church—these are topics Melissa Inouye, a scholar, addresses in an effort to explain how she has “found the fruits of this life (the life of a Latter-day Saint) to be worthwhile—costly, to be sure, but also rich and nourishing, a source of deep joy.”

To honor the life of Melissa Wei-Tsing Inouye we are revisiting this episode from the All In archives. This episode originally aired on July 10, 2019.

1:51- A Latter-day Saint Seven Days a Week
2:56- The Church Influencing Worldview
6:38- Lessons Learned From Being a Missionary
12:14- Belonging and Identity
18:44- Wins and Losses
20:57- Creating Unity in the Church
23:41- Helping Amidst Faith Crises
29:56- An Evolving Church
34:48- Cancer
36:47- What Does It Mean to Be All In The Gospel of Jesus Christ?

“I believe that Christ is here in the Church and I've felt the power of God. And so, having had those experiences, I am absolutely committed to being where I am.” —Melissa Wei-Tsing Inouye

Identity, creating understanding, covenants, a worldwide Church, faith crises, change in the Church—these are topics Melissa Inouye, a scholar, addresses in an effort to explain how she has “found the fruits of this life (the life of a Latter-day Saint) to be worthwhile—costly, to be sure, but also rich and nourishing, a source of deep joy.”
To honor the life of Melissa Wei-Tsing Inouye we are revisiting this episode from the All In archives. This episode originally aired on July 10, 2019.
1:51- A Latter-day Saint Seven Days a Week 2:56- The Church Influencing Worldview 6:38- Lessons Learned From Being a Missionary 12:14- Belonging and Identity 18:44- Wins and Losses 20:57- Creating Unity in the Church 23:41- Helping Amidst Faith Crises 29:56- An Evolving Church 34:48- Cancer 36:47- What Does It Mean to Be All In The Gospel of Jesus Christ?
“I believe that Christ is here in the Church and I've felt the power of God. And so, having had those experiences, I am absolutely committed to being where I am.” —Melissa Wei-Tsing Inouye

Melissa Inouye: Why Loving One Another Is More Than Bringing Casseroles

T.C. Christensen has made some of the most beloved Latter-day Saint films in recent years including “17 Miracles” and “The Fighting Preacher.” His new film, “Escape From Germany” tells the story of a missionary who was tasked with moving 85 missionaries to safety in adjacent countries as Hitler’s army was rapidly closing borders in August of 1939. On this week’s episode, T.C. shares with us how he approaches telling the miraculous stories of real people.

1:56- A Camera
4:52- The Power of Film
8:14- Stories Worth Telling
13:58- Heroes
16:59- Source Material
21:30- Journals
29:15- Lessons Learned From Movie Characters
30:40- Accurate Portrayals
34:00- Capturing Emotion Without Overdoing It
39:12- What Does It Mean To Be All In the Gospel of Jesus Christ?

“No embarrassment, no justification, this is who I am.” -T.C. Christensen on his membership in the Church

“Escape From Germany” website: https://escapefromgermanyfilm.com

LDS Living Q&A with T.C.: https://www.ldsliving.com/why-t-c-christensen-loves-fiddler-on-the-roof-and-is-still-very-zippity-about-latter-day-saint-stories/s/12163

News articles about “Escape From Germany”: https://kslnewsradio.com/2094352/ksl-movie-show-exclusive-director-of-escape-from-germany-talks-challenges-of-period-pieces-on-a-budget/

https://ksltv.com/636492/new-film-tells-story-of-79-latter-day-saint-missionaries-who-escaped-nazi-germany/

T.C. Christensen has made some of the most beloved Latter-day Saint films in recent years including “17 Miracles” and “The Fighting Preacher.” His new film, “Escape From Germany” tells the story of a missionary who was tasked with moving 85 missionaries to safety in adjacent countries as Hitler’s army was rapidly closing borders in August of 1939. On this week’s episode, T.C. shares with us how he approaches telling the miraculous stories of real people.
1:56- A Camera 4:52- The Power of Film 8:14- Stories Worth Telling 13:58- Heroes 16:59- Source Material 21:30- Journals 29:15- Lessons Learned From Movie Characters 30:40- Accurate Portrayals 34:00- Capturing Emotion Without Overdoing It 39:12- What Does It Mean To Be All In the Gospel of Jesus Christ?
“No embarrassment, no justification, this is who I am.” -T.C. Christensen on his membership in the Church
“Escape From Germany” website: <a href="https://escapefromgermanyfilm.com">https://escapefromgermanyfilm.com</a>
LDS Living Q&amp;A with T.C.: <a href="https://www.ldsliving.com/why-t-c-christensen-loves-fiddler-on-the-roof-and-is-still-very-zippity-about-latter-day-saint-stories/s/12163">https://www.ldsliving.com/why-t-c-christensen-loves-fiddler-on-the-roof-and-is-still-very-zippity-about-latter-day-saint-stories/s/12163</a>
News articles about “Escape From Germany”: <a href="https://kslnewsradio.com/2094352/ksl-movie-show-exclusive-director-of-escape-from-germany-talks-challenges-of-period-pieces-on-a-budget/">https://kslnewsradio.com/2094352/ksl-movie-show-exclusive-director-of-escape-from-germany-talks-challenges-of-period-pieces-on-a-budget/</a>
<a href="https://ksltv.com/636492/new-film-tells-story-of-79-latter-day-saint-missionaries-who-escaped-nazi-germany/">https://ksltv.com/636492/new-film-tells-story-of-79-latter-day-saint-missionaries-who-escaped-nazi-germany/</a>

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