Are you constantly trying to fix or change the people you date instead of accepting who they actually are?

Do you find yourself picking at tiny "icks" just to protect yourself from real emotional intimacy?

What would it look like to stop chasing the chaotic "spark" and finally choose secure, peaceful love?

 

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi sits down with Sabrina Zohar, Relationship coach, host of The Sabrina Zohar Show, and NYT bestselling author of Why Am I Like This?, for a deeply honest conversation about breaking toxic dating cycles, healing attachment wounds, and learning to build genuine intimacy. From watching her own relationship patterns unravel to the daily practice of unlearning childhood conditioning, Sabrina brings practical wisdom, humor, and radical permission to stop abandoning yourself in love.

 

This conversation covers repetition compulsion, avoidant icks vs. red flags, breaking free from limerence, and why choosing secure love requires facing uncomfortable truths. It’s one of those episodes that stays with you long after it’s over.

 

In this episode, you’ll learn:
How to identify your childhood relationship blueprints
Differentiate avoidant "icks" from genuine red flags to stop self-sabotaging safe connections
Break free from anxious limerence, fantasy projections, and obsessive social media checking
Use simple communication scripts like "Can I share?" to set clear boundaries without defensiveness
Build the self-trust required to stop abandoning your needs and choose peaceful, reciprocal love

 

Follow Sabrina:

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https://www.instagram.com/thesabrinazoharshow/

https://sabrinazohar.com/

 

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Are you constantly trying to fix or change the people you date instead of accepting who they actually are?
Do you find yourself picking at tiny "icks" just to protect yourself from real emotional intimacy?
What would it look like to stop chasing the chaotic "spark" and finally choose secure, peaceful love?
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In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi sits down with Sabrina Zohar, Relationship coach, host of The Sabrina Zohar Show, and NYT bestselling author of Why Am I Like This?, for a deeply honest conversation about breaking toxic dating cycles, healing attachment wounds, and learning to build genuine intimacy. From watching her own relationship patterns unravel to the daily practice of unlearning childhood conditioning, Sabrina brings practical wisdom, humor, and radical permission to stop abandoning yourself in love.
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This conversation covers repetition compulsion, avoidant icks vs. red flags, breaking free from limerence, and why choosing secure love requires facing uncomfortable truths. It&rsquo;s one of those episodes that stays with you long after it&rsquo;s over.
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In this episode, you&rsquo;ll learn:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">How to identify your childhood relationship blueprints</li>
<li aria-level="1">Differentiate avoidant "icks" from genuine red flags to stop self-sabotaging safe connections</li>
<li aria-level="1">Break free from anxious limerence, fantasy projections, and obsessive social media checking</li>
<li aria-level="1">Use simple communication scripts like "Can I share?" to set clear boundaries without defensiveness</li>
<li aria-level="1">Build the self-trust required to stop abandoning your needs and choose peaceful, reciprocal love</li>
</ul>
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Follow Sabrina:
<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@sabrina.zohar">https://www.tiktok.com/@sabrina.zohar</a>
<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thesabrinazoharshow/">https://www.instagram.com/thesabrinazoharshow/</a>
<a href="https://sabrinazohar.com/">https://sabrinazohar.com/</a>
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Follow Radhi:
<a href="https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/">https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/</a>
<a href="https://www.instagram.com/areallygoodcry/">https://www.instagram.com/areallygoodcry/</a>
<a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQ">https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQ</a>
<a href="https://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/">https://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/</a>
<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukia">https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukia</a>

This podcast won’t solve all your problems, but it WILL go through them with you. Radhi Devlukia brings you a new weekly show called A Really Good Cry, a space where we can embrace the real, the messy and the beautiful parts of life that can be difficult to digest alone, together. Tune in for a good ole’ laugh, maybe shed a tear or two, and join a community where you can have a really good cry!

There's no small talk here, we are diving straight in and it’s gonna get real. Whether it’s raw, unfiltered conversations, debate and discussions of different perspectives and life experiences or going on an emotional rollercoaster. A Really Good Cry is there for you to learn, connect, and find comfort together - that allows us to see the world and ourselves with a new perspective. 

Some episodes will also feature surprise guests, including celebrities, scientists, experts and more. New episodes drop every Tuesday. Tag @areallygoodcry on Instagram with your best crying face for a chance to be featured on our social media channels. Like, comment and follow @areallygoodcry on Instagram if you want the chance to be featured on episodes. You can also subscribe to get exclusive and bonus content. Radhi will give listeners the opportunity to be part of the show by responding to dms, comments, questions and more. 

This podcast won’t solve all your problems, but it WILL go through them with you. Radhi Devlukia brings you a new weekly show called A Really Good Cry, a space where we can embrace the real, the messy and the beautiful parts of life that can be difficult to digest alone, together. Tune in for a good ole’ laugh, maybe shed a tear or two, and join a community where you can have a really good cry!
There's no small talk here, we are diving straight in and it’s gonna get real. Whether it’s raw, unfiltered conversations, debate and discussions of different perspectives and life experiences or going on an emotional rollercoaster. A Really Good Cry is there for you to learn, connect, and find comfort together - that allows us to see the world and ourselves with a new perspective. 
Some episodes will also feature surprise guests, including celebrities, scientists, experts and more. New episodes drop every Tuesday. Tag @areallygoodcry on Instagram with your best crying face for a chance to be featured on our social media channels. Like, comment and follow @areallygoodcry on Instagram if you want the chance to be featured on episodes. You can also subscribe to get exclusive and bonus content. Radhi will give listeners the opportunity to be part of the show by responding to dms, comments, questions and more.

A Really Good Cry

Why You Keep Choosing the Wrong People | Sabrina Zohar

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