Why do we stay in the wrong relationships? Is it fear, habit, or the belief that love is supposed to be difficult?

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, I sit down with relationship coach Jillian Turecki for an honest, insightful conversation about why we get stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns—and how to break free from them.

We talk about recognizing red flags early, the psychology behind staying too long, and what it truly takes to create a relationship that’s built to last. Jillian also shares practical advice on healing after heartbreak, letting go with grace, and attracting the kind of love that feels aligned and sustainable.

Whether you’re moving through a breakup, reflecting on past patterns, or simply trying to understand love more deeply, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and perspective.

 

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:48 You're the Common Denominator in Every Relationship

03:38 How to Recognize Your Unconscious Dating Patterns

08:52 The Biggest Relationship Mistake People Make

11:15 How to Find Meaning After a Breakup or Divorce

17:51 “Don’t Deny Yourself the Privilege of Moving On”

21:15 Are You Fighting Your Partner—or Your Past?

24:13 Stop Blocking Love

26:13 Love vs Lust

30:56 Why Love Feels Different in Your 20s vs. 30s

32:00 Relationship Deal Breakers

36:45 Can You Really Be Friends with an Ex?

40:09 Is Love Alone Enough to Make a Relationship Work?

45:16 The First Step to Rebuilding Your Relationship with Yourself

47:07 The Secret to Keeping Chemistry Alive in Your Relationship

49:11 You’re Punishing Your Partner Without Realizing It

51:25 Cool Girl vs Good Girl

56:26 Marriage Is Just the Beginning of Self-Work

58:38 Answering audience questions

 

Follow Jillian:
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https://www.facebook.com/jillianturecki
http://instagram.com/jillianturecki
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/jillian-on-love/id1640172049
https://www.tiktok.com/@jillian.turecki?lang=en
https://www.threads.net/@jillianturecki

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Why do we stay in the wrong relationships? Is it fear, habit, or the belief that love is supposed to be difficult?
In this episode of A Really Good Cry, I sit down with relationship coach Jillian Turecki for an honest, insightful conversation about why we get stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns&mdash;and how to break free from them.
We talk about recognizing red flags early, the psychology behind staying too long, and what it truly takes to create a relationship that&rsquo;s built to last. Jillian also shares practical advice on healing after heartbreak, letting go with grace, and attracting the kind of love that feels aligned and sustainable.
Whether you&rsquo;re moving through a breakup, reflecting on past patterns, or simply trying to understand love more deeply, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and perspective.
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What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:48 You're the Common Denominator in Every Relationship
03:38 How to Recognize Your Unconscious Dating Patterns
08:52 The Biggest Relationship Mistake People Make
11:15 How to Find Meaning After a Breakup or Divorce
17:51 &ldquo;Don&rsquo;t Deny Yourself the Privilege of Moving On&rdquo;
21:15 Are You Fighting Your Partner&mdash;or Your Past?
24:13 Stop Blocking Love
26:13 Love vs Lust
30:56 Why Love Feels Different in Your 20s vs. 30s
32:00 Relationship Deal Breakers
36:45 Can You Really Be Friends with an Ex?
40:09 Is Love Alone Enough to Make a Relationship Work?
45:16 The First Step to Rebuilding Your Relationship with Yourself
47:07 The Secret to Keeping Chemistry Alive in Your Relationship
49:11 You&rsquo;re Punishing Your Partner Without Realizing It
51:25 Cool Girl vs Good Girl
56:26 Marriage Is Just the Beginning of Self-Work
58:38 Answering audience questions
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Follow Jillian:
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<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.facebook.com/jillianturecki">https://www.facebook.com/jillianturecki</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="http://instagram.com/jillianturecki">http://instagram.com/jillianturecki</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/jillian-on-love/id1640172049">https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/jillian-on-love/id1640172049</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@jillian.turecki?lang=en">https://www.tiktok.com/@jillian.turecki?lang=en</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.threads.net/@jillianturecki">https://www.threads.net/@jillianturecki</a></li>
</ul>
Follow Radhi:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/">https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQ">https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQ</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/">https://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukia">https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukia</a></li>
</ul>

This podcast won’t solve all your problems, but it WILL go through them with you. Radhi Devlukia brings you a new weekly show called A Really Good Cry, a space where we can embrace the real, the messy and the beautiful parts of life that can be difficult to digest alone, together. Tune in for a good ole’ laugh, maybe shed a tear or two, and join a community where you can have a really good cry!

There's no small talk here, we are diving straight in and it’s gonna get real. Whether it’s raw, unfiltered conversations, debate and discussions of different perspectives and life experiences or going on an emotional rollercoaster. A Really Good Cry is there for you to learn, connect, and find comfort together - that allows us to see the world and ourselves with a new perspective. 

Some episodes will also feature surprise guests, including celebrities, scientists, experts and more. New episodes drop every Tuesday. Tag @areallygoodcry on Instagram with your best crying face for a chance to be featured on our social media channels. Like, comment and follow @areallygoodcry on Instagram if you want the chance to be featured on episodes. You can also subscribe to get exclusive and bonus content. Radhi will give listeners the opportunity to be part of the show by responding to dms, comments, questions and more. 

This podcast won’t solve all your problems, but it WILL go through them with you. Radhi Devlukia brings you a new weekly show called A Really Good Cry, a space where we can embrace the real, the messy and the beautiful parts of life that can be difficult to digest alone, together. Tune in for a good ole’ laugh, maybe shed a tear or two, and join a community where you can have a really good cry!
There's no small talk here, we are diving straight in and it’s gonna get real. Whether it’s raw, unfiltered conversations, debate and discussions of different perspectives and life experiences or going on an emotional rollercoaster. A Really Good Cry is there for you to learn, connect, and find comfort together - that allows us to see the world and ourselves with a new perspective. 
Some episodes will also feature surprise guests, including celebrities, scientists, experts and more. New episodes drop every Tuesday. Tag @areallygoodcry on Instagram with your best crying face for a chance to be featured on our social media channels. Like, comment and follow @areallygoodcry on Instagram if you want the chance to be featured on episodes. You can also subscribe to get exclusive and bonus content. Radhi will give listeners the opportunity to be part of the show by responding to dms, comments, questions and more.

A Really Good Cry

This podcast won’t solve all your problems, but it WILL go through them with you. Radhi Devlukia brings you a new weekly show called A Really Good Cry, a space where we can embrace the real, the messy and the beautiful parts of life that can be difficult to digest alone, together. Tune in for a good ole’ laugh, maybe shed a tear or two, and join a community where you can have a really good cry!
There's no small talk here, we are diving straight in and it’s gonna get real. Whether it’s raw, unfiltered conversations, debate and discussions of different perspectives and life experiences or going on an emotional rollercoaster. A Really Good Cry is there for you to learn, connect, and find comfort together - that allows us to see the world and ourselves with a new perspective. 
Some episodes will also feature surprise guests, including celebrities, scientists, experts and more. New episodes drop every Tuesday. Tag @areallygoodcry on Instagram with your best crying face for a chance to be featured on our social media channels. Like, comment and follow @areallygoodcry on Instagram if you want the chance to be featured on episodes. You can also subscribe to get exclusive and bonus content. Radhi will give listeners the opportunity to be part of the show by responding to dms, comments, questions and more.

Jillian Turecki: 9 Truths About Love That Hurt — and Heal

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