How can you spot a narcissist? 

It's quite a surprise to think that someone close to us might actually have those traits—or maybe, in some ways, we share them ourselves. Narcissism isn't always obvious; it can hide in plain sight, making it tough to tell who's who and leading us to question whether we see it in others or within ourselves.

Today I welcome Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a clinical psychologist known for her expertise in narcissism, personality disorders, and mental health. She's authored several books, including "Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist" and “It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People".

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Dr. Ramani dives into narcissism, breaking down what makes someone a narcissist and how it affects relationships and society. She talks about spotting narcissistic traits, whether they're innate or learned, and how tough it is to change these behaviors. 

I hope this episode provides you with practical insights and a deeper understanding of narcissism, enabling you to navigate relationships with clarity and confidence.

What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
00:47 What is a narcissist?
02:43 The continuum of narcissism
07:08 Insecurity vs. Narcissism
08:00 Definition of empathy
14:50 How to identify a narcissist
17:32 Can you be born with narcissism?
22:45 Healing a narcissist
26:21 Narcissist living in the society
28:29 Changing a narcissistic personality
30:49 Spotting a narcissist in a relationship
33:28 Is a narcissistic person capable of love?
36:42 Two narcissists in a relationship
38:05 How does a narcissists express their emotion?
38:54 Staying with a narcissistic partner
44:31 Growing up with a narcissistic parents
46:57 Practicing self regulation
57:19 Narcissism in history and leadership
1:02:32 Setting boundaries in social situations
1:06:10 Navigating trauma and finding inner peace
1:11:04 Healing through therapy and motherhood



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How can you spot a narcissist? 
It's quite a surprise to think that someone close to us might actually have those traits—or maybe, in some ways, we share them ourselves. Narcissism isn't always obvious; it can hide in plain sight, making it tough to tell who's who and leading us to question whether we see it in others or within ourselves.
Today I welcome Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a clinical psychologist known for her expertise in narcissism, personality disorders, and mental health. She's authored several books, including "Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist" and “It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People".
In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Dr. Ramani dives into narcissism, breaking down what makes someone a narcissist and how it affects relationships and society. She talks about spotting narcissistic traits, whether they're innate or learned, and how tough it is to change these behaviors. 
I hope this episode provides you with practical insights and a deeper understanding of narcissism, enabling you to navigate relationships with clarity and confidence.
What We Discuss:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">00:00 Intro</li>
<li aria-level="1">00:47 What is a narcissist?</li>
<li aria-level="1">02:43 The continuum of narcissism</li>
<li aria-level="1">07:08 Insecurity vs. Narcissism</li>
<li aria-level="1">08:00 Definition of empathy</li>
<li aria-level="1">14:50 How to identify a narcissist</li>
<li aria-level="1">17:32 Can you be born with narcissism?</li>
<li aria-level="1">22:45 Healing a narcissist</li>
<li aria-level="1">26:21 Narcissist living in the society</li>
<li aria-level="1">28:29 Changing a narcissistic personality</li>
<li aria-level="1">30:49 Spotting a narcissist in a relationship</li>
<li aria-level="1">33:28 Is a narcissistic person capable of love?</li>
<li aria-level="1">36:42 Two narcissists in a relationship</li>
<li aria-level="1">38:05 How does a narcissists express their emotion?</li>
<li aria-level="1">38:54 Staying with a narcissistic partner</li>
<li aria-level="1">44:31 Growing up with a narcissistic parents</li>
<li aria-level="1">46:57 Practicing self regulation</li>
<li aria-level="1">57:19 Narcissism in history and leadership</li>
<li aria-level="1">1:02:32 Setting boundaries in social situations</li>
<li aria-level="1">1:06:10 Navigating trauma and finding inner peace</li>
<li aria-level="1">1:11:04 Healing through therapy and motherhood</li>
</ul>
 
Follow Dr. Ramani:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://doctor-ramani.com/">https://doctor-ramani.com/</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.instagram.com/doctorramani/">https://www.instagram.com/doctorramani/</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.facebook.com/doctorramani/">https://www.facebook.com/doctorramani/</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://twitter.com/DoctorRamani">https://twitter.com/DoctorRamani</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://doctor-ramani.com/dr-ramanis-books/">https://doctor-ramani.com/dr-ramanis-books/</a></li>
</ul>
 
Follow Radhi:
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<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQ">https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQ</a></li>
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</ul>

This podcast won’t solve all your problems, but it WILL go through them with you. Radhi Devlukia brings you a new weekly show called A Really Good Cry, a space where we can embrace the real, the messy and the beautiful parts of life that can be difficult to digest alone, together. Tune in for a good ole’ laugh, maybe shed a tear or two, and join a community where you can have a really good cry!

There's no small talk here, we are diving straight in and it’s gonna get real. Whether it’s raw, unfiltered conversations, debate and discussions of different perspectives and life experiences or going on an emotional rollercoaster. A Really Good Cry is there for you to learn, connect, and find comfort together - that allows us to see the world and ourselves with a new perspective. 

Some episodes will also feature surprise guests, including celebrities, scientists, experts and more. New episodes drop every Tuesday. Tag @areallygoodcry on Instagram with your best crying face for a chance to be featured on our social media channels. Like, comment and follow @areallygoodcry on Instagram if you want the chance to be featured on episodes. You can also subscribe to get exclusive and bonus content. Radhi will give listeners the opportunity to be part of the show by responding to dms, comments, questions and more. 

This podcast won’t solve all your problems, but it WILL go through them with you. Radhi Devlukia brings you a new weekly show called A Really Good Cry, a space where we can embrace the real, the messy and the beautiful parts of life that can be difficult to digest alone, together. Tune in for a good ole’ laugh, maybe shed a tear or two, and join a community where you can have a really good cry!
There's no small talk here, we are diving straight in and it’s gonna get real. Whether it’s raw, unfiltered conversations, debate and discussions of different perspectives and life experiences or going on an emotional rollercoaster. A Really Good Cry is there for you to learn, connect, and find comfort together - that allows us to see the world and ourselves with a new perspective. 
Some episodes will also feature surprise guests, including celebrities, scientists, experts and more. New episodes drop every Tuesday. Tag @areallygoodcry on Instagram with your best crying face for a chance to be featured on our social media channels. Like, comment and follow @areallygoodcry on Instagram if you want the chance to be featured on episodes. You can also subscribe to get exclusive and bonus content. Radhi will give listeners the opportunity to be part of the show by responding to dms, comments, questions and more.

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Dr. Ramani: Narcissism 101 - How to Identify Toxic Traits and Set Boundaries

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