We got a voicenote from Kyle that’s got the whole “fair vs feelings” debate going.

Kyle and his twin brother both play rugby at school. Same house, same age, same sport — but not the same outcome. Kyle’s been selected to play provincial rugby… his twin hasn’t. Now here’s the twist: his parents are asking Kyle to withdraw from the team because they think it’ll be too emotionally hard for his brother to deal with being left out.

So Kyle’s basically being told to shrink his moment so his brother doesn’t feel bad.

Anele, you said you knew parents like this in high school — the ones who try to keep everything “equal” even when life just isn’t. But is that actually fair? Would you tell one child not to shine in maths because their sibling struggles? Or is this how resentment between brothers is born?

Is this protecting feelings… or punishing achievement? What do you guys think Kyle should do?

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We got a voicenote from Kyle that&rsquo;s got the whole &ldquo;fair vs feelings&rdquo; debate going.
Kyle and his twin brother both play rugby at school. Same house, same age, same sport &mdash; but not the same outcome. Kyle&rsquo;s been selected to play provincial rugby&hellip; his twin hasn&rsquo;t. Now here&rsquo;s the twist: his parents are asking Kyle to withdraw from the team because they think it&rsquo;ll be too emotionally hard for his brother to deal with being left out.
So Kyle&rsquo;s basically being told to shrink his moment so his brother doesn&rsquo;t feel bad.
Anele, you said you knew parents like this in high school &mdash; the ones who try to keep everything &ldquo;equal&rdquo; even when life just isn&rsquo;t. But is that actually fair? Would you tell one child not to shine in maths because their sibling struggles? Or is this how resentment between brothers is born?
Is this protecting feelings&hellip; or punishing achievement?&nbsp;What do you guys think Kyle should do?
Hang out with Anele and The Club on 947 every weekday morning. Popular radio hosts Anele Mdoda, Frankie du Toit, Thembekile Mrototo, and Cindy Poluta take fun to the next level with the biggest guests, hottest conversations, feel-good vibes, and the best music to get you going! Kick-start your day with the most enjoyable way to wake up in Joburg.
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Should kids ever be told to shrink their success to protect a sibling’s feelings? 

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