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Dear Ted and Amy,
I feel bad writing a letter about this because I know that she means well. But my sister is unintentionally creating a really awkward situation at our family holiday parties and I don't know how to tell her. I come from a big family and about five years ago, when we all started having kids, we decided that we wouldn't buy each other presents, but would just buy our nieces and nephews gifts. We all work in different fields, so some definitely make more than others. We decided to put a limit on the cost of the presents for each kid just so that none of us felt pressured to spend too much. But ever since we put the "limit" on the gifts, my sister spends twice as much on every child. When we call her on it, she tells us to stop being such "Scrooges" and if she can do it she will. The problem is that the rest of us feel like we're the ones who look like cheapskates especially to her kids who get less than all the rest. And some of the others are probably wondering why our presents are not as extravagant as their aunt's. We're all now feeling like we have to up the game this year, even though some of us can't afford to spend any more than we already do. How can we convince her that this is not the best way to celebrate with the family?
Signed,
Not As Rich in Richland