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Dear Ted and Amy,
I'm a female in my 30s, never married and no kids. I'm educated, have a good 6 figure career, own my own home, car, etc. I sound like a good catch right? So why is it that men have such a hard time telling me that they love me? I was with my last boyfriend for almost 3 years. Not once did he say “I love you”. He was horrible to me and I broke up with him after I caught him cheating for the 3rd time. After him, I was single, by choice, for about 1 and a half years.Surprisingly, I think I may have actually finally found a good guy. He’s thoughtful and kind to me, and I really enjoy his company. The thing that’s been on my mind though - we’ve been dating for about 8 months and he hasn’t told me he loves me yet either. In fact, he told me his love “has to be earned”.So I’d like to know by what point in a relationship everyone thinks “I love you’s” should be said by before considering the fact that the guy maybe doesn’t actually love you.I’m not looking for comments like “why is this so important to you?” Or “Just communicate your feelings with him” or “what does it matter - actions speak louder than words”. I just want opinions on a number- by 6 months in? A year?Am I crazy to think this is weird? I just don't want to waste my time again.
Signed,
Wanting Love in Lyncourt