Men and women are taught completely different messages about sex, especially when it comes to your first time. The mixed messaging creates an impasse in our collective global society, and in South Africa it's led to the most sexually violent country in the world.

Toronto-based Nicolle Hodges is a journalist, author and activist who's rebranding the concept of virginity, its loss and its sacredness with something she calls Sexual Debut.

In this episode, Leah and Nicolle talk about why the first time carries so much weight, and what we can do to be more inclusive in our language in order to contribute to a more empowered society.